Monday, February 1, 2010

Rest...or Die: Mary

Rest...or Die.
Harsh title, I know.

Yet not as harsh as the words Jehovah spoke to his people in Exodus 31 (version, The Message):
God spoke to Moses: "Tell the Israelites, 'Above all, keep my Sabbaths, the sign between me and you, generation after generation, to keep the knowledge alive that I am the God who makes you holy. Keep the Sabbath; it's holy to you. Whoever profanes it will most certainly be put to death. Whoever works on it will be excommunicated from the people. There are six days for work but the seventh day is Sabbath, pure rest, holy to God. Anyone who works on the Sabbath will most certainly be put to death. The Israelites will keep the Sabbath, observe Sabbath-keeping down through the generations, as a standing covenant. It's a fixed sign between me and the Israelites. Yes, because in six days God made the Heavens and the Earth and on the seventh day he stopped and took a long, deep breath.'"

Practice the Sabbath...or perish.
Invest in a day to stop...or suffer isolation.

Now, I'm quite certain the literal components of this passage would fire a passionate debate (which is of no concern to me right now), so I'm going to go figurative.  It seems to me here that this is one more place God demonstrates his omniscience.  Humanity does not have an off button naturally.  We will go until we're sick, dead, or both.  Especially in this modern time, when during one tiny breath of time, we can be working, communicated with someone on Facebook, watching the news, eating lunch, Googling, and texting our spouse about picking up dinner.  Go. Do. More. Yes. Sacrifice. Strive.  An endless string of pressing concerns chokes our lives.  Rest...or die.  How many of us are dying of business?

Wayne Muller comments on our fatal gluttony for business:  "A 'successful' life has become a violent enterprise.  We make war on our bodies, pushing them beyond their limits; war on our children, because we cannot find enough time to be with them when they are hurt or afraid, and need our company; war on our spirit, because we are too preoccupied to listen to the quiet voices that seek to nourish and refresh us; war on our communities, because we are fearfully protecting what we have, and do not feel safe enough to be kind and generous; war on earth, because we cannot take time to place our feet on the ground and allow it to feed us, to taste its blessing and gave thanks" (see below)  A life lived with no rest, no pause, no stillness is a life of violence: destructive to our souls, dangerous to our loved ones, deadly to our bodies, debilitating to the innocent bystanders of our incessant striving.

So yes, there is no question that God's warnings about Sabbath for his people are harsh.  Rest...or die.  Stop...or suffer isolation.  But it is easy to see how these admonishments are for our own good.  Rest...or die, because our physical selves suffer from non-stop going. Stop...or suffer isolation, because our relationships (sometimes even those within the same household) are diminished by our constant output of energy.  (Ironic, no?  You think in a society that is more connected than ever isolation would not occur?!)

I work a job that demands at least 60 hours a week and 100% of my mind and heart.  I have a house that is constantly dirty.  I have a marriage that cries for cultivation.  I have furry pets who need walking and feeding.  Thank God, literally, for His gift of a weekly off button.

When was the last time you pressed yours?

To allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands, to commit oneself to too many projects, to want to help everyone in everything, is to succumb to violence.  ~Thomas Merton

Wayne Muller's Sabbath book...

Sunday, January 24, 2010

Another One...

Though I will be posting more later, I just have to say that already (not even two chapters into it), I am profoundly affected by this book.  If you are keeping up with this blog, you will be hearing a lot about it!

Thursday, January 14, 2010

Wac-a-Mole and a Sabbath Heart: Mary

The scene is a bedroom.

Sabbath morning. Sleepy eyes. Muted dawnlight. Awakening mind.

WAC!

And that would me, brutally annihilating thoughts of work that are popping up across my mental landscape. My body has not even risen from the warm covers, and already I am inundated with worries, anxieties, plans, questions, reminders...on and on the list goes.  Wait, this is supposed to be the Sabbath!  No work thoughts.  No worries.

And so the Sabbath work begins.  Yep, I said it.  Sabbath takes work.  It is challenging to create the rhythm of rest. Ridding my brain of the burdens of responsibilities is reminiscent of that carnival game, Wac-a-Mole.  Just when you pound down one sinister mole who is grinning at you with mockery, another pops up in his place, taunting your incompetency to squelch their annoying presence.  And so it goes with my thoughts of work.  Lesson planning.  Grading.  Student worries.  Lesson planning.  Conversations with colleagues.  Grading.  Position security.  Negative complaining.  Lesson modification.  Vindictive politics.  Mole.  Wac.  Mole.  Wac.  There I lay, swinging away with that foam bat, out of breath, and I haven't even risen for the day yet!  Paul was not kidding when he used war language to describe the mental battlefield:  "Take captive every thought..."

How many of us have our lives ruled by thoughts of work?  Our lives are dictated by a job that is suppose to be our livelihood, yet in the end--though it fills our bank account--it repletes our soul.  Mine has.  It has consumed me, distracted me, tired me.  I want to work to live...not live to work.  And that is one more reason I need the Sabbath.  I need to stop, and then notice, get this, that the world does not stop with me.  It goes on.  It survives.  I am not the axis on which this globe spins.  So why do I live like it?  Why do I consistently feel the pressure that God has reserved for himself alone?

Not any longer.  Sabbath is my pause from work, but more importantly, it is a break from the arrogance that consumes my life.  The arrogance that says I have to do it all alone.  All perfect.  All the time.

Which ties into my next thought for this week.  Monday morning as I was driving to work, I felt the strenous tension rise through my legs, through my shoulders, through my heart like the heat of an attack.  Not 24 hours removed from the Sabbath, I am already consumed with anxiety for the impending week.  And I thought...why does the Sabbath end?  Yes, my habits, actions, and activities change; but my heart can remain in that stillness of Sunday, that serenity of Sabbath.  And that is what I really want from this year.  A Sabbath day yes.  But God, please give me a Sabbath heart.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

The Beginning - Dave

So when Mary first brought up the idea of participating in the Sabbath I wasn't quite sure what to think. "The Sabbath". It just sounds weird, immediately bringing forth images from "Fiddler On the Roof" with everyone scrambling around to get things done before the sun sets. That was definitely not for me. After reading a few chapters on the practice and talking it through I decided maybe we should try it. After all, how bad could it be setting aside a day to just take naps, read, worry about nothing except how I'm going to spend time with my wife? And then some of the realizations hit me. We had laid down a few ground rules. No TV, no internet, nothing that would allow us to fill our time up but not force us to relax and let our brains de-stress. This is when it dawned on me the gravity of the situation. No TV I can do, but we're doing this on Sunday. Yes Sunday, the day the NFL plays. That would mean no football, no Bears, no Colts, and worse yet we weren't doing internet. I wouldn't even be able to keep up with games online, let alone check my fantasy football stats. Hmm. Now I'm not some crazy fantasy geek but football is one of the only sports I'll arrange my schedule to watch. Wasn't quite prepared for that. We came to a compromise. I would only pick one game a week to watch. It had to be chosen beforehand and if it didn't happen to be on cable, oh well. I didn't think too much about this as the Bears are a dumpster fire and the local team is almost as bad. I hadn't really been watching too much anyway. This was about two weeks ago. Before it occurred to me that not only the playoffs but the biggest game of the year was coming up. There's nothing like a little test just to see how committed you are. If I miss it though, I miss it. I'm not scrapping this thing just to watch grown men in tight spandex pants manhandle each other.
So despite my apprehensions, and there are some, I'm pretty excited about this. It will be interesting to see how it affects areas of our lives that we haven't even considered. It's daunting to think about how I now have one less day to get things done around the house, run errands etc. At the same time it's exciting to think that I now have an entire day that I have permission to read and nap. We'll see how long it takes to get rid of the guilt resulting from our protestant work ethic. This is going to be an interesting and rewarding journey.

The Beginning: Mary

Don't you hate those books?  You know, not the cozy books you snuggle with in your bed.  Not the comical books which incite chuckles and giggles.  Not the brainless books which are devoured in an hour.  I'm talking about those books which cause tiny quakes in the earth beneath your feet.  Your world shifts.  Your heart breaks.  Your eyes water.  Your shame rises.  And you know, you just know, you cannot remain the same after the turn of these pages.  Well, one of those books is how this all started.

If you're wondering what this is, well so am I.  Which is why I love journeys; you need nothing figured out except with whom you're journeying.  And so I start, a step towards God, a step with my husband, all on this journey called A Year of Sabbaths.  If you're wondering whether or not we are Jewish, I respond no.  We are just two people trying, and failing, and trying some more, to give and receive God's love in a whirlwind of a life.  It seems love is born of a restful heart, and well frankly, my heart is anything but.  Hopefully I will say differently at the end of this year.

If you're curious as to the culprit book that got this party started, well it is entitled Sacred Rhythms (see my entry entitled Rest-Full Reads for a link to the book), but I have entitled it The Book That Started It All...Darn It.  My best friend Tammy and I spent last year reading, discussing and trying to practice the spiritual disciplines described in this book.  And while all along I was challenged and overwhelmed, something really snapped for me when I encountered chapter 8:  "Sabbath: Establishing Rhythms of Rest and Work."  And when I say snapped, I don't mean it in a negative way. I tend to be a reader, not a doer; snapping brings about change in my life.  I'll save some discussion on what impacted me so much for a later entry, but for now I'll summarize by saying, "Uh-oh, things have to change."

And so here we are, January 9th, 2010.  Tomorrow we practice our first intentional day of rest.  Not rest as in sit-my-lazy-rear-in-front-of-the-TV-and-mentally-check-out (previous definition for me), but rest as in no technology, no participating in the American economy, no work,  no activities which stress my heart, soul, and/or mind.  I'll read my Bible.  I'll journal.  I'll spend time focused on Dave, instead of just with him.  I'll read a book.  I'll nap.  I'll light a candle and just sit.  I'll eat slowly, walk slowly, think slowly.  I'll relax in our home and enjoy the sunshine that dances off the mountainsides.  I'll enjoy a long walk, or run, or both, or none.  I will NOT multi-task.  I will not think about work.  I will not relinquish power to the worries that be.  They have crushing control in my life 6 days of the week, but no longer on this 7th day...the Sabbath.

Rest-Full Reads